In talking to a couple of friends this weekend in separate conversations, I heard two seemingly opposing statements. The first statement came from Lauren, a teacher. Lauren was having a particularly busy week and observed

“It’s like I’m being pecked to death by ducks… except in this case the ducks are meetings.”

This is a busy time of year for Lauren; she is planning a brand new curriculum and report cards are due by the end of the week at her school. Instead of spending her non-classroom hours doing these things she has been roped into one meeting after another talking about everything from disciplinary matters, to college prep, to the school’s composting commission. All of the meetings are important to some degree but, as Lauren sees it, her job is to perform in the classroom and give timely assessments of her students and both of these things are being negatively affected by her meeting load.

Mark is a medical supply salesman. He recently returned from an annual conference where he talked with many of his peers about different sales techniques and learned more about the latest medical supply technology. He is still on a high from the conference and pumped to start implementing everything he learned. Talking about his experience, Mark said:

“I just wish those conferences were more than once a year. Hearing what other people are doing makes me feel less like I work in a vacuum.”

Mark’s job is naturally isolating. He spends most of his time in his car driving to hospitals and doctors’ offices and most of the time he spends in his own office is spent doing paperwork.

How do meetings fit into your worklife? Do they distract from what you want to be doing or do they help you do a better job?

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During a performance of the refined and grand Mahler’s 9th symphony at the New York Philharmonic on Tuesday 10 January 2012 the moment was interrupted by the unmistakable marimba ring tone from an iphone in the front row. The conductor, Alan Gilbert, stopped the performance. He spoke to the front row offender; whatever he said was not recorded. After an interminable time that included shouts from other audience members, the phone was silenced; the performance continued.

This incident provides some insight into intention and incivility. People certainly know that silencing phones is a fundamental part of concert going. As usual, an announcement to this effect was made at the beginning of this concert. Doing so is nearly a ritual, such as flight attendants explaining the operation of a seat belt: if you don’t know how to operate a seat belt you should not be out of the house without supervision. In light of the implicit and explicit cautions against phone rings, the culprit’s neglect goes beyond unintended to gross neglect.

But another view emerges from Daniel Wakin’s New York Times piece on the incident. The offender was a regular concert going an active donor to the New York Philharmonic. He had received the phone the previous day at work and was unaware that the alarm clock was set and that the alarm clock on an iphone would override an off-setting and ring regardless. The slow response to the ring was that it took a while for it to register that his phone was the offending device and then to figure out how to turn off the alarm (btw the alarm does not turn itself off in a reasonable time unlike a phone call that would shift to voicemail after a few rings).

From this perspective, the offender’s neglect was to bring a potentially disruptive device into a concert venue without becoming thoroughly acquainted with it. But how many people actually read through the documentation accompanying a new device? How many people would actually anticipate the situation to leave their new phone in the car? Although the individual could be criticized, doing so sets a high bar for anticipatory device management. And the individual did apologize. He spoke directly to Mr. Gilbert the next day.

In addition to a lesson on civility, the situation provides one on the special status of a live performance. One of the qualities that make such performances special is the possibility that something can go very wrong; will we make it through this performance without untoward events occurring? We always hope for success, but the tension adds to the experience.

A final note: Wakin’s article notes the following:

In a Twitter message, the composer Daniel Dorff said, “Changed my ringtone to play #Mahler 9 just in case.” Now that is looking ahead!

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